The following list of websites and books for adults and children provide valuable information for families dealing with divorce.
mediate.com: An informational website about the process and many benefits of mediation both in divorce and other areas of conflict.
divorcesource.com: A website containing useful information and checklists for those dealing with divorce.
Divorce and Parenting Support Resources
neutralgroundsupport.org: A peer-support organization for the formerly married (separated/divorced, widowed) and those ending a significant relationship.
uptoparents.org: An organization helping parents focus on the needs of their children both in marriage and in divorce.
ACT for the Children: A four and one-half hour class that provides divorcing or separating parents with information and strategies to help their children and themselves through family changes caused by a divorce or separation. A.C.T. For the Children is presented to the Rochester, NY community through the volunteer efforts of mental health professionals, judges, and attorneys.
Equal Rights for Fathers of New York State: Supportive forum for fathers’ issues relative to separation & divorce.
Children’s Institute: Offers programs and services to strengthen children’s social and emotional health.
Books for Adults
Putting Children First by JoAnne Pedro-Carroll, Ph.D.
Making Divorce Work by Diana Mercer, J.D.
Surviving Infidelity by Rona Subotnik
Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life by Sam Margulies
Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolini Ricci
Divorce Book for Parents by Vicki Lansky
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce by Abigail Trafford
Something Gained: 7 Shifts to be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce by Deb Purdy
Books for Children and Teens
It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky
My Family’s Changing by Pat Thomas
When My Parents Forgot How to be Friends by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
The Divorce Helpbook for Kids by Cynthia MacGregor
Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids by Isolini Ricci
Caring for Our Aging Parents: An elder mediator and author helps siblings negotiate care for mom and dad. AARP Bulletin, August 4, 2011.Abrahms, S. (2011).
The Complete Eldercare Planner by Joy Loverde
Mom Always Liked You Best by Arline Kardasis
Who Gets Grandma’s Yellow Pie Plate? from the University of Minnesota Extension Service
Get it Together: Organize Your Records so Your Family Won’t Have To by Melanie Cullen and Shae Irving
The Boomer’s Guide to Aging Parents by Carolyn L. Rosenblatt
Learn More About Elder Mediation
“Strengthening Troubled Sibling Bonds to Deal With an Aging Parent” by Abby Ellin, The New York Times, May 29, 2015
“Speak for Yourself, While You Can” by Tom Lauricella, The Wall Street Journal Online, August 11, 2012
“The Ties that Blind: Elder Mediators Help Siblings Come To Peace for the Sake of Aging Parents” by Robin Marantz Henig, Slate, February 9, 2012
“The Author Speaks – Caring for Our Aging Parents: An elder mediator and author helps siblings negotiate care for Mom and Dad” by Sally Abrahms, AARP Bulletin, August 4, 2011
“Should You Hire an ‘Elder Mediator’?” by Anne Tergesen, The Wall Street Journal Ditigal Network’s SmartMoney Blog – Encore, August 2, 2011
“Family Value: A Referee for Family Disputes” by Anne Tergesen, The Wall Street Journal, February 5, 2011
“Oh, Brother! With Parents Aging, Squabbling Siblings Turn to Elder Mediation” by Sally Abrahms, AARP Bulletin, September 20, 2010
“Mediators Help Families with Tough Choices of Aging” by Joseph Shapiro, National Public Radio Morning Edition, April 13, 2009
“Mediating Elder-Care Disputes” by Tom Lauricella, Wall Street Journal Online, March 2, 2008
“The Caregivers: Sibling disputes over care” CBS Evening News, February 20, 2007
“Mediators Save Caregivers’ Relationships: Professionals can help siblings make the tough health care decisions for aging parents” CBS Evening News.com article, February 20, 2007
“Siblings revive conflicts when parent care comes up” by Carla K. Johnson, Associated Press, in Fifty Plus Advocate, January 4, 2007
“Mediators Ease Decisions on Elders: Mediators ease elder decisions” by Maggie Jackson, The Boston Globe, December 3, 2006
Resources for Elders and their Families
Eldersource: An organization of eldercare professionals providing advocacy and valuable information about services and resources in the Greater Rochester area for elders and their families.
Lifespan: An organization providing education, guidance and multiple services for seniors in the Rochester area.
Alzheimer’s Association: The leading voluntary health organization in Alzheimer’s care, support and research.
Elder Law Answers: A website with information and resources on Medicaid, long term care, and estate planning issues.
Family Caregiver Alliance – National Center on Caregiving: A community based nonprofit organization to address the needs of families and friends providing long term care for loved ones at home.
Lotsa Helping Hands: A free website to assist in organizing caregiver help.
National Family Caregivers Association A non-profit organization providing education, peer support and resources to family caregivers caring for loves ones with chronic conditions, disabilities, disease or the frailties of old age.